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Giuseppe Scalas's avatar

This post has deeply moved me. We men, or at least those who haven't been swayed or have a tarnished character, don't ask anything better than lay down our lives for the woman we love. I was happy when my wife asked me, say, to step in when a street bully was threatening her father-in-law or to drive the firemen to the main electrical panel in our buiding's basement while she took our girls to safety. The next step in maturity, then, is to acknowledge that she too is a flawed human being and that we're "companions in shipwreck", and yet, to want to lay down our lives for her.

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Brittany Hugoboom's avatar

Thank you so much ❤️

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Nolan Bryan Lynch's avatar

Tolkien quote, very nice.

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IkonoclastCop(ret'd)'s avatar

As I read this, I think also if The Last of the Mohican, with Daniel Day-Lewis. The parallels hold.

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Brittany Hugoboom's avatar

Oh absolutely!

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Phil Pinelli's avatar

“transformation is often external, shaped by trials and conquests, a woman’s is internal. She becomes through reflection, through sacrifice, through love.” This is so true and shows why the female is the best of the species.

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Author Jeremy Evans's avatar

An interesting read for a male as well.

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Brittany Hugoboom's avatar

I’m glad it resonated ❤️

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Phil Pinelli's avatar

A woman’s beauty and grace doesn’t make her any less powerful. Love that!

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Nathan Knight's avatar

There was a reason the siren's song was so affective. Men innately are drawn to the enchantments of femininity. We fight for it, love in it, inspired and confused by it all at the same time. Yet it is part of the primal drive.

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Brittany Hugoboom's avatar

Absolutely ❤️

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Nathan Knight's avatar

I should add, use that power for good.

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Beregond Hurin's avatar

I love this. Very well done

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Brittany Hugoboom's avatar

Thank you so much

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And Yet's avatar

Also true. Interesting.

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Laura Hamilton's avatar

What a beautiful and inspiring post. Your description of the feminine hero's journey calls to my mind Eowyn in The Lord of the Rings books. She begins jaded, despairing, depressed, wanting to fight as a warrior and win glory in battle, even die fighting because she has nothing left to live for. Unfortunately the movies end with her story unfinished. She slays the Witch King like a badass, then ends with a vague reference to a possible relationship with Faramir. Their entire love story of healing and redemption is left out, for the sake of time but it's still a shame. Eowyn's real journey is incomplete until she becomes a healer, and learns to love all things that grow and take delight in life, not death. Just like you described, her journey is one of internal reflection. She ends as a revived, feminine healer while losing none of her real strength. Her journey is a great example of the heroine's journey that you described here.

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Ugochukwu Paul Nwaeze's avatar

This is so beautiful. Wow! I want to send this to a woman friend, but I don't have any at the moment to send it to.

But please, I have a question. You affirmed that women dress for other women. No woman I have met has explained why this is; therefore, I am forced to believe that it's a lie women tell themselves to dress poorly and not in an edifying manner.

So, please can you answer it? Why do you think women dress for other women?

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Sig's avatar

Good insights and imagery. Well written.

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Nicky's avatar

Girl you get it… thank you for this post

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Story Vault's avatar

As male I kept looking for the conclusion of the matter. And then I realized.. nevertheless it was a very acute read. 👍😊

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Dr Ioannis Syrigos's avatar

Your article beautifully captures the essence of complementary masculine and feminine energies, offering a refreshing perspective on how women can inspire and uplift men through virtue and grace. It's a poetic reminder that accepting our unique strengths creates a powerful, enchanting dynamic. I loved it!

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Brittany Hugoboom's avatar

I really appreciate that! ❤️

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caitlin elisabeth ray's avatar

this is so well said. Also we can add the odyssey to this list

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The Industry Standard's avatar

Wonderful and incisive and even-handed.

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john smith's avatar

10/10 post

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